Permanent Address, Behold!

Christine Bora Lee
c/o Kadega Bhandari
Manpur, Ward No. 1
Manpur VDC, Dang
Nepal

Current Care-package desirables:
dried seaweed sheets (to make sushi!!!)
green tea (bagged or unbagged is bueno)
letters and photos <3
valentine's day cards (to pass out to the children here)
other upcoming holiday stuff (cross-cultural exchange type love)
NEW MUSIC (on a flashdrive perhaps? I don't have a CD socket in my netbook but I could make it work)
a 3-musketeer bar
anything else you think I would lava

Homes in Nepal don't have specific addresses, and so I haven't tested this address out; it's simply what was told to me.  As a precaution, maybe send a postcard first to see if it works and I'll let you know when I receive it? Or if it's a package you send that doesn't cost or burden you too much, let'em rip! The above address should work.

I love you all and I miss being... Californian!
Namaste,
Stinky

1/5/14

January 5^th, 2014

21 Pus, 2070

Sunday

Aaitabaar

I had a lot of funny, weird thoughts and happenings when I wandered and got lost in my VDC (the whole of my village) that I initially wanted to write, but I've been very sick the past couple of days and felt the need to fulfill a Peace Corps goal.

And so, instead of funny stuff, I'm going to enlighten and enrich all of your eager minds to some Nepali culture. Today, or maybe yesterday, was the one year anniversary of the death of my gharbeti baba (house father)'s baba (basically, my grandpa). The many different castes and ethnic groups that make up Nepal all celebrate such an event differently, but all in all, most if not all families recognize this day as very, very significant in their lives.

In the village where I resided for three months of Pre-Service Training, Chhaap, my neighbor's mother had past away and all the sons born from her were required to fast, restrained to eating one meal a day, for 45 days. On the 45^th day, the family threw a bhoj (party/celebration) where many of the neighbors and extended family members were invited to eat and be served different types of “bhoj” food (mostly beaten rice, veggies, and beans).

Here in my permanent village, Manpur, a similar event occurred. My baba told me it was a bhoj, but I was quickly corrected by some of my co-workers at the health post and it's known as something else I couldn't pronounce (I was a little fed up with them so I gave up trying, I'll be honest). My family prepared massive portions of special “word-I-couldn't-pronounce” type food, such as kher (milky rice with coconut bits *yum), haluwa (can't describe it but it's sweet), achaar (spiced potatoes), and roti. It seemed that everyone from our extended family had come to join in on the puja (worship) and the festivities.

After everyone had eaten, received tikaa, and drank tea, the remaining ladies, some of the boys, and I all headed out to the nearby river to send off a final puja tradition down the river in honor of the late grandpa. This was a very joyful ceremony as we sang (we as in they sang and me yelling weird, similar noises), danced, and clapped to the beat of the group's song while walking down to the river and back. As we began our trek home, I had told the group that I've never been a part of such a ceremony and that in the United States we don't conduct such a thing. This is when I began to reflect about this aspect of Nepali culture that I found myself very much appreciating.

In American culture, a person's passing is a deeply mournful ceremony. Everyone is expected to wear black at the funeral as a sign of respect and a sign of loss, all the while much is needed to be discussed concerning property, money, and the late person's will. This is not to say that Nepalis do not mourn, for they certainly feel the same pain and loss when a loved one dies. A difference, however, is that instead of recognizing a deceased friend or family member with a moment of silence, they recognize it with food, the gathering of living family members and friends, and celebration. I was at first conflicted with this tradition, thinking, “Why does a son who's mother just died have to feed me food?” Yet during that walk back home from the river, I saw how joyous the occasion was for the living family members, and how grandpa was still very much alive in memory that day. Even though he had passed a year before, his life had brought everyone back together in honor of him, and they all rejoiced being family and being alive. This is my interpretation and reflection of the ceremony, at least.

La, Peace Corps goal fulfilled.

With ramaailo and maya,

Bora/Stinky/Christine.

January 2^nd, 2014

Happy New Year Everyone!

Today is what I like to think of as a very Nepali day. I had 5 cups of cheeya (and finally witnessed how much sugar is put into one cup... as delicious as 15 cavities) accompanied with several different types of unhealthy biscuits (the stark contrast of being a nutrition volunteer and the food I eat is its own psychological thriller in my head), then watched my nani (baby girl) poop on the floor/ on my sister-in-law's foot as I ate dinner. Did you know a baby's poop is bright yellow? If that's not normal, let me know and I'll tell my family that nani needs to eat something less yellow.

Also, I've been struggling with this abnormal stomach pain and I have no idea what it is. It could be a parasite, holaa, but I'm waiting it out a few days to see if it'll pass on its own.

I apologize if I sound like an idiot, but for future notice I'm going to start throwing in random English vocab words in my writing so that I can practice my English. This is because rather than becoming bi-lingual, I'm starting to feel like I don't know English nor Nepali anymore.

Poor brain.

Namaste til next time,

da sack.